Like many of you, I was extremely shocked to hear that just after 1 year of marriage, Amber Rose has decided to file for divorce from her rapper husband, Wiz Khalifa. The paired seemed very much in love throughout their relationship and even in the past few weeks leading up to the divorce announcement. There were of course the public displays of affection at the 2014 VMA’s, the IG anniversary post, hoping for forever and none of us can forget Amber’s twerk video for Wiz’s latest album, Black Hollywood going number 1. Nothing says I love you more than twerking that thang to your man’s song, lol. Of course seeing them on a red carpet and following them on Instagram doesn’t mean that we know them or what’s really going on behind closed doors, but I truly believe that the 2 of them were very much in love, especially Amber, well until she wasn’t.
Anytime there is a breakup, the rumors get swirling. That’s inevitable. There are rumors swirling that there was infidelity on both sides. Some “sources” are saying that Wiz started cheating on Amber when he started his Up In Smoke tour. “Sources” add that Amber become suspicious when Wiz told her she couldn’t join him on tour and that she had to stay home with their son. More “sources” have added that Amber actually caught Wiz in the bed with another woman, OUCH! On the other end of the blame game, “sources” say that Amber is the one that was cheating and with her new manager, who is also going through a divorce, Nick Cannon. I always tell you guys I have a “6th entertainment sense” and I really don’t believe this one to be true. Amber took to twitter to clear her name on the infidelity rumors, but confirmed that Wiz did cheat on her.
After the divorce news was announced, my girlfriends and I were talking about it in group chat, and one of my friends said “Men cheat, that’s what they do.” another friend added “He must’ve fell in love with the woman he was cheating with.” I was sitting there reading their messages thinking, am I the only one who thinks cheating is not ok? Why are men allowed to cheat just because they are men? A woman should only be upset if her spouse falls in love with the person he cheats with? That’s crazy to me. We take vows, we make promises to one another and the Lord. I think those promises should be kept and not only have to be upheld, if you are the one in the relationship without a penis. I do not believe that cheating is ever ok, or that sometimes “things just happen” especially when you are married. No one forces you to dedicate yourself to just one person, that’s a decision only you can make for yourself when you decide to get married. Cheating is a marriage/relationship deal breaker for me. If you are married or in a “committed” relationship and decided to lay down with someone else, you should be aware that you are not only putting your spouse and family at emotional risk but also jeopardizing their physical and health risk. Sleeping around and bringing who knows what, home to your spouse, no that’s not ok. This reckless behavior is forgivable?
While I know men are often tempted, let’s not act like women aren’t as well. Sticking with Wiz and Amber, yes,he’s on the road, meeting different women, some attractive, some super thirsty, some just plain thots but that doesn’t mean that he HAS to sleep with them because they are there, because while he’s being tempted, let’s not act like there aren’t many men, who look way better, weigh more (lol), have more money or just showing genuine interest in Amber Rose, who is SUPERGORGE. But if he decides to cheat, he’s a man and that’s what they do and if she decides to step outside of the marriage it’s, “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife.”
While cheating is a deal breaker for me, I also know that everyone is different and may have their own set of deal breakers. These deal breakers can range from not spending enough time together, financial strain, flirting, lying, etc. Ultimately, I think in relationships and in life in general, we shouldn’t do to others what we wouldn’t want them to do to us. It’s really not that hard.
I think when entering into a serious relationship and especially a marriage you should tell each other, honestly, what your deal breakers would be. Many times we have our own unspoken “rules” in relationships, but I believe they need to be vocalized. Communication is key. You maybe surprised that you and your boo share some of the same deal breakers, or yours are completely different and what you think maybe a small issue, your other half has a huge problem with it.
All in all I want you all to do what makes you happy and try not to hurt one another!!!
Have a SuperGorge day!!
